Recently, Diane tried on boots at her favorite department store. Shopping alone, she just wasn’t sure how a pair of boots looked on her. Darn. Where was her shopping accomplice, Noonie, or her fashionista sister, Karen? She needed a friend’s input. Diane looked around to see who could help and spotted another woman shopping alone.
“Would you mind giving me your opinion on these boots?” she asked the shopper. “I’m not sure if they’re right for work.”
The woman quickly looked at the boots and back at Diane and dismissively said, “It’s all a matter of personal taste; I’m not giving my opinion.”
Slap. Ouch. Wow. Diane wasn’t going to hold the woman accountable if she bought the boots and later regretted it. Couldn’t she have offered, “I think you can do better,” or “They’re cute, but I’m not sure I’d wear them to work”? Diane didn’t get the boots — or any support.
Two weeks later, while whiling away some time before a dinner meeting, Diane spied another pair of boots in a big department store. Though she’s bought many shoes solo, this boot too had a unique look. Since, again, she was without a friend’s feedback, she tried once more to solicit female input from someone other than the sales clerk. This time, she saw two friends happily trying on shoes.
“Mind if I ask you what you think of these boots? I don’t have my girlfriend with me tonight, and I’d value your input. What about the buckle? Would you wear them?”
Happily, the women told it like they saw it. They liked the look and the side buckle. “Go for it,” they said. “We know what it’s like to shop without your girlfriend!”
After Diane purchased the boots, she passed the women in the aisle. “Did you get the boots?” one cheerfully asked.
“Sure did, and thanks for your opinion!”
The women smiled and gave Diane a thumbs-up.
What a difference a friendship attitude makes! These women had been friends for an instant, providing Diane the kind of sisterhood you crave when your own friend isn’t around for support.
How can we be “an instant friend” to other women? Perhaps it’s making small talk in the grocery store line, complimenting a woman that the clothes she’s trying on look really great, or consoling the mother of a crying child. It doesn’t take much to be a friend to another woman who appears in need of a “moment of friendship,” but what a difference it can make not only to them but to us as well. When’s the last time you were part of an “instant friendship”? What happened and how did you feel that experience was for you and for her? We can’t wait to hear!