Leaving close girlfriends when you move to another city can be heart wrenching. The good news is, you can stay connected with some tenacity and effort — and the positive intention that nothing will
get in the way of your friendship.
When I moved from the San Francisco Bay Area to San Diego, California, I made a commitment to keep my northern girlfriends close. That means texting and calling, sending pictures of adventures and, of course, cards on birthdays and special occasions.
So, my Bay Area friends and I make plans and stick to them.
Last year, three of my friends came to visit me at different times–walked along the beach and shopped in cute boutiques and ate at my favorite restaurants. And we binged on Netflick’s Grace & Frankie. What
fun! And when I go north for any reason, I let them know, and we ma time to see each other.
Recently, my friend, Lynn, invited Sidonie and me to her new abode in Paso Robles, where she started anew after living in the Bay Area f years. Fortunately, she has kept her friends by making time to visit
them and inviting them to her home.
This weekend was really special as Sidonie and I got to see Lynn’s stunning new spacious home–decorated like an art gallery–and spend time with her in the wine country.
I arrived first, and so Lynn and I spent the day Friday eating out at beautiful resort and then hitting the adorable shops in Paso Robles tasted wines and cheeses and chocolates and bought a little of
Sidonie arrived Friday evening and we laughed together as we watched a good movie and noshed on the delicacies we purchased. The next day we went to a local Farmers’ Market before heading to the spa for
massages. Finally we topped the day off with dinner at a wonderful winery and feasted on one of the most delectable meals I’ve had in a long time. We laughed and told stories and shared from the heart as
only girlfriends do because we know whatever we say is in that very special vault.
Sunday we launched out early for the beach and searched for moonstones along the beautiful beaches of Cambria, California, just a short drive from Lynn’s home. It was hard to leave for the airport Sunday
afternoon, but I did so flooded with oxytocin–that feel-good hormone women experience when they are surrounded by their girlfriends.
While phone calls, social media and texts keep us connected, nothing can replace the heart-to-heart and soul-to-soul connection of being with our friends in the flesh.
Whether you live two or two thousand miles away, time with girlfriends is irreplaceable. We talk things through, sort out life, laugh at silliness, and audibly exhale that we are not the only one who…whatever! Girlfriend time is soul-quenching time and it only happens if we make it so!
So…whatever seems to be getting in your way, work around it, work through it, and connect with your girlfriends to make a plan! You will be so happy you did.