Guest Blog by Elyse Smethers
Throughout the past four years of college, I have realized the impact my girlfriends have made in my life. When I have had stressful moments in school, or have needed a girls night to recoup from a crazy week, my girlfriends have been there to share a fun night out on the town. I see the importance of girls’ nights more than I did in the past. As time has passed, my closest girlfriend group has developed a tradition of making Friday nights devoted to spending time together and catching up after a long week. Now I always look forward to Friday nights and to spending time with my girlfriends. It is truly important to invest in friendships, because you never know what will happen in life.
Just recently I suffered a loss in my family; my Grandpa passed away. As I received the sad news over the phone from my dad, I had many emotions consuming me. For two days I kept this sad news and feelings to myself. After receiving the news, I told myself I am strong enough and can get through this tough time on my own. I didn’t want to burden anyone with my problems. What a mistake that was for me to handle the loss of my Grandpa. After those two days, I knew I was being stubborn and decided to share the news with my best friend in San Diego. After I opened up to her and told her what was wrong, I felt relief. I realized after doing that, I have started the journey towards acceptance that my Grandpa is gone, but also the grieving process. As the week continued, I prepared myself emotionally for his memorial service that was being held on Saturday, February 2nd, in Michigan. My best friend was there for me as a shoulder to cry on throughout the week and even checked up on me each day I was in Michigan with family. I do not know what I would do without my girlfriends and really appreciate all they have done for me.
My Grandpa’s loss opened up my eyes to how lucky I am to have the friendships I have developed throughout my life. I also see the importance, more than ever before, in investing time into my friendships and to be the best friend I can possibly be.
Now you are probably wondering who I am. I am Elyse Smethers, soon to be graduate from San Diego State University, and currently an intern for Diane Lofgren and Margaret Bhola. I am thrilled to be on the team for promoting “Women I Want to Grow Old With.” I will be writing weekly on this blog and hope I can be an inspiration to many.