By Guest Blogger Lolma Olson
Judy and I met in a mutual work environment. We both knew, from the moment we laid eyes on each other, that we would be fast friends. We met a few years ago and both thought that new friendships were a thing of the past since meeting new women friends in our 60’s seemed like a stretch!
And stretch we did! Like so many close friendships with women, it was as if we had been friends for years. We shared many life experiences with each other and had fun enjoying our new-found friendship.
I wondered what this new-old friendship would bring. Would it be like other friendships, talking on the phone each day, learning new things about each other and discovering aspects that hadn’t yet appeared in our conversations?
In fact, what happened was a much slower process of getting to know each other over months instead of days. You see, we both had full lives before we met so that learning about each other has been happening in snippets of time.
We took one evening at the very beginning of our friendship to have dinner at her home. This one evening gave us a chance to share stories of our lives and start the friendship with shared experiences.
Now she often picks me up for work so we have 20 minute intervals, maybe every few months, to continue the friendship and catch up. And, we also find times to go to dinner together and have every-few-weeks or once-a-month phone conversations to catch up.
I’ve learned that I don’t have to be in a hurry to establish a new, trusting friendship at this point in my life—I can savor each time we’re together as we learn as much about ourselves as we do about each other.
I highly recommend new women friends to grow old with, since as I grow older, I find that I learn about the wisdom of self and the wisdom of finding a soul mate friend to share the journey.
Thanks to the universe for bringing Judy into my life—what could be better than that?