I say that women are the backbone of health. This belief surfaced in the most supportive way in dealing with my husband’s recent health challenge. My family and I suddenly found ourselves making life- supporting decisions. We were confronted with heart disease and what next steps to take. While my family, as always, was there in a most supportive way, what touched me the most was the interest and care expressed by my “women friends”.
I must admit that I initially was in an “I’ll take care of this myself” mode, I did make an adjustment since I am committed to having women in my life who I can count on for support and who know they can count on me. With that in mind, I began calling and emailing friends letting them know what was happening in my life and asking for prayers and good energy and anything else they might think I could need.
The wishes and support came flooding in immediately. One friend reminded me that she was on the board of the hospital where my husband was staying and would make an intervention. Another friend was on the horn to a cardiac physician that we both knew bringing her expertise in integrative medicine. My dear friend, Francie, sent her husband over to see us ASAP as he had undergone open heart surgery a few years ago. His support was very comforting and the immediate action made the whole experience more bearable. My co-author, Diane, was “Johnny on the spot” connecting us with nurses and doctors who are experts in the cardiac field. The list of supportive action and heartfelt concern goes on and on.
The entire experience was one of community and love. In a moment of potential crisis, the sense of partnership and unity brought calm and clarity. It’s human to feel alone and lonely in life and to doubt that there is anyone who really cares. Experiences like this one forever dissolve those feelings. I will never forget this out-pour of love from my women friends. Today I enjoy a renewed appreciation of the many women in my life that I proudly and lovingly call my friends. They are truly the women I want to grow old with.
Perhaps you have a story that acknowledges the women in your life, who will drop everything to support you. We invite you to share it and to use the opportunity to express your love and appreciation for these friends you want to grow old with.